Lydia-Emmanuel-Desir shares her top tips for extended breastfeeding!
Natural term weaning
Natural term weaning means your child will wean when they are ready, not according to any set timeline. Some toddlers may continue breastfeeding well into their toddler years, while others may naturally reduce feeds on their own. There’s no ‘one-size- fits-all’ approach.
It is, of course, completely understandable if you wish to bring your breastfeeding journey to an end yourself. Just remember not to go cold turkey as you run the risk of developing mastitis – gradually reduce the amount of milk you remove from your breasts each day. This gentle and gradual approach is also easier for your little one to transition.
If your child is under 12 months when you stop breastfeeding, they will need formula to replace breastfeeds. However, from 12 months, they can switch to cow’s milk or unsweetened plant alternatives – avoid rice milk due to the levels of arsenic.
Handling judgement
A common challenge of extended breastfeeding is dealing with unsolicited opinions. You may hear comments like, “Isn’t your child too old for that?” or “You’re doing it for yourself now.” The reality is, there’s no upper age limit for breastfeeding—it’s a personal choice between you and your child.
To feel empowered when feeding an older baby/child:
- Arm yourself with the facts—breast milk continues to provide nutrition and immune support beyond infancy.
- Surround yourself with supportive friends, family, or like-minded online communities.
- Have a simple response ready for unwanted comments – “This works for us!” is often enough.
- Practice your response in advance to feel more confident.
Breastfeeding on-the-go
Feeding a toddler in public can feel very different to nursing a newborn. Older babies and children are often more active, vocal and demanding, which can make public feeding a challenge!
Tips for stress-free public breastfeeding
- Wear easy-access clothing, such as layered tops or a nursing hoodie.
- Choose a familiar, comfortable spot where your child is less likely to be distracted.
- If you prefer privacy, a shawl or cardigan can help.
- Set boundaries around your little one’s access to your breasts – distraction can be a helpful tool
- Remember: You have every right to feed your child whenever you want to.
Returning to work while breastfeeding
Going back to work doesn’t mean you have to stop breastfeeding. Many mums continue nursing their toddlers around their work schedule.
Top tips for returning to work and breastfeeding:
- Prioritise feeds before and after work.
- Plan ahead—discuss your pumping needs with your employer before returning.
- Clearly communicate your need for regular, private pumping breaks.
- Consider speaking to your employer about flexible hours or a more relaxed schedule to accommodate pumping and being in closer proximity to your child to deliver their milk or breastfeed directly.
- Know your rights—While employers aren’t required by law to provide specific pumping breaks, they are required to provide more frequent rest breaks for mothers expressing milk. Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself and, if necessary, reference the relevant laws (The Equality Act 2010 and The Workplace (Health, Safety and Welfare) Regulations 1992) to show that this is a common and reasonable request.
By approaching the conversation with preparation and clarity, you can help ensure that both you and your employer can make pumping breaks work in a way that’s practical and supportive for everyone involved.
Extended breastfeeding isn’t about following rules—it’s about doing what feels right for you and your child. Whether you nurse for days, weeks, months or years, the most important thing is that it works for your family. Ignore the naysayers, trust your instincts, and enjoy this special connection for as long as it suits you both!
Whatever your journey looks like, remember; you’re doing an amazing job.
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